A good friend is struggling with her relationship that started over six months ago. She is feeling unsecured, angry, confused, hurt, stressed, and wanting to cry. The boyfriend keeps telling her he loves her although she is not his type and then also tells her the love of his life is his ex-girlfriend.
Ok so let’s analyze this:
- A new relationship should be about fun for the most part, then it gets serious and then more serious stuff happens.
- The blooming phase: In these first few months there should be a somewhat heavenly feeling with extremely minor disagreements (ice cream flavors and trivial stuff).
- A major disruption during the blooming phase is more often than not, a clear sign that is not going to work. WARNING! WARNING! WARNING! This is where most couples decide to ignore the obvious and vote in favor of the “It works sometimes, and it will get better in the future” type of relationship.
- Keep in mind that heavy rain in the early stages is clear announcement there is a storm coming your way. Why, why, why would you want to wait for the storm?
I think I will come back to this topic, there is so much to discuss and such chaos out there, it deserves a deeper analysis.
That’s it for now. If there is anything you want me to address feel free to let me know.
Yours truly,
Franklin Peña
2014-11-03 @ 11:11